Author Archive for Audrey

Do we need Gay Pride?

As we are in the midst of gay pride celebrations around the world I was looking over a great list of pride event links on (  it is a great list from around the world and I was thinking about Gay Pride. I live in a fairly gay friendly area of the U.S. In general gay people are fairly mainstreamed in society (at least in some areas), do we need gay pride? Some say it is to create awareness of gay rights and improve understanding and acceptance of gay individuals. But I think it is more important as a means of maintaining a community. As much as we want to assimilate and become just another facet of society, I think it is also important to maintain a sense of culture and community. The joy and fun I experience when I attend a pride event or a gathering or other event reminds me that we are indeed a culture with our own unique customs and history.

We can’t forget what some of our senior members have fought to get us where we are today. I was not at Stonewall, in fact I was probably bopping out to Davy Jones at the time and “coming out” was a good 30 years away for me but I certainly can appreciate what those brave people did to get us where we are today: no more DOMA, many states and a few more countries legalizing gay marriage, television shows where characters happen to be gay (not just the butt of a joke), acceptance of gays in the military and the boy scouts and openly gay politicians. All thanks to our brave family that got us to where we are today.

We still need Gay Pride, we are a unique culture and these events are important to connect and help all of us be Loud and Proud!



Happy Pride to all! June is a month of Gay Pride celebrations. I thought you all might like to see a collections of videos from our community around the world. See them at


Pink Triangle

This has no particular current relevance.
Last year I was at the holocaust museum in DC. I found an interesting origin of a common symbol in our culture, the pink triangle. Perhaps this is something that I should have known and I am just woefully ignorant of our history. But in case others are as unaware as I, here is the history of the pink triangle, not a happy one. In addition to the well-known yellow Star of David which Jewish persons were forced to wear under the Nazi regime, there were many other badges to force all unwanted groups to be visually identified.
For example red triangles were political prisoners including liberals, communists, trade unionists, among others. Purple triangles: Jehovah Witnesses. Black Triangles:”Anti-social elements” included mentally ill, Alcoholics, Pacifists, Prostitutes, Lesbians(!)
This system of badges had various combinations and notations
The pink triangle was forced on homosexual males sent to concentration camps because of their homosexuality. Every prisoner had to wear a downward-pointing triangle on his or her jacket. These men were treated with extreme cruelty by the Nazis and by other prisoners. They led an extremely grueling existence.
The downward-pointing pink triangle was originally intended as a badge of shame, the pink triangle now inverted from its Nazi usage has been reclaimed as an international symbol of gay pride and the gay rights.


On the left

Recently my partner and I were having a discussion about being left-handed in a parochial school. Less than 30 years ago lefties were discriminated against, forced to use their right hand and often physically abused in an attempt to turn them into righties in Catholic schools. Ludacrious right??! So what was the origin of this discrimination. Well there are numerous references in many cultures equating left-handedness with evil, left-handed kids were told they were “of the devil”. The biblical references are obscure and minimal, yet a whole group was discriminated against and abused based upon these references. Do you see any correlation here? A few disputable and vague biblical references are used as the basis to discriminate against a group of people. See a correlation here? Can a lefty “choose” to be a righty? Of course not! Can “reparative therapy” (such as tying up the left hand, or being hit repeatedly on the left hand with a ruler) change a lefty to a righty? Preposterous! There is just as much science and evidence to support the inate nature of being right or left-handed as there is to the inate nature of being gay. Maybe some day future generations will look back and be horrified at the treatment and discrimination of gay people in the same way that we look back at the absurd discrimination of lefties in the not-so-distant past.


“New York, New York”

Let’s hope the lyrics hold true… “If I can make it here, I’ll make it anywhere…”  The 6th state to allow gay marriage may have a national impact. Imagine that, allowing Americans to have equal rights!


UN backs gay rights for first time ever!

GENEVA – The United Nations endorsed the rights of gay, lesbian and transgender people for the first time ever Friday, passing a resolution hailed as historic by the U.S. and other backers and decried by some African and Muslim countries.

read the full article here

In March, the U.S. issued a nonbinding declaration in favor of gay rights that gained the support of more than 80 countries at the U.N. In addition, Congress recently repealed the ban on gays openly serving in the military, and the Obama administration said it would no longer defend the constitutionality of the U.S. law that bars federal recognition of same-sex marriage….

Ok my friends we are one step closer to true equality…


Say “I do” Mr. President

Mr. President, the time to end exclusion from marriage is now. We ask you to complete your journey and join us, and the majority of Americans, who support the freedom to marry.

Same-sex couples are often denied:

  • hospital visitation when there’s been an accident or illness
  • the ability to obtain “family” health coverage
  • taxation and inheritance rights
  • their role as parent of their children
  • even protection in case the relationship ends.

There are over 1,100 protections and responsibilities denied to same-sex couples in long-term committed relationships including access to health care, parenting  rights, social security, veterans and survivor benefits, and transfer of property—and that doesn’t include several hundred state and local laws, protections conferred by employers, or the intangible security, dignity, respect, and meaning that comes with marriage.  Excluding committed same-sex couples from marriage means shutting out families from the safety and security created by these protections and responsibilities.

Please take a moment to sign this letter….if someone tryed to make your marriage not count, I’d sign for you.

Co-sign Freedom to Marry’s open letter to the President asking him to support the freedom to marry.